💜Avoidance of Vulnerability: You’ve gotten so used to hiding the parts of yourself you see as weak or imperfect that it feels like second nature. Even when you’re unhappy, you put on a good face for your partner, hoping to avoid conflict or disappointment. Deep down, you crave connection, but the thought of being truly vulnerable—letting him see you when you’re not composed or in control—feels too risky, like you might lose the little balance you’re holding onto.

💜 Hyper Independence: You feel like you always have to be the strong one in your marriage—the wise, steady presence your partner relies on. You’re the one holding everything together, but when it comes to asking for help or letting him support you, it feels almost impossible. Being vulnerable feels unfamiliar, like you’re supposed to have all the answers, even when you’re the one who needs care.

💜 Building Walls Rather Than Appropriately Setting Boundaries:

When your partner says or does something that feels disrespectful, you cut him off emotionally instead of having the hard conversation about what hurt you. Past experiences have taught you to assume the worst, so you make choices to protect yourself before he can hurt you again. One wrong move, and you shut him out to keep yourself safe.

💜 Romanticizing Past or Future Relationships: You mentally escape to past relationships or lose yourself in daydreams about future ones, anything to avoid facing what needs to change in your current relationship. It’s easier to imagine something different than to confront what you can do to make your present connection more fulfilling.

💜Fear of Commitment: You often find yourself caught in push and pull dynamics in relationships. Deep down, you struggle with abandonment issues and tend to test your partner’s commitment, even if you don’t realize it. When things are calm and steady, you get bored and may seek fulfillment elsewhere. You might even choose partners who can’t truly satisfy you, so you don’t have to face the fear of getting too attached.

💜Avoidance of Deep Connection: You struggle to fully embrace physical intimacy with your partner. While you may appear open, a part of you pulls back, fearing that closeness will require emotional vulnerability.You might even seek physical intimacy fulfillment through casual encounters with strangers or people you're not truly invested in, because it feels safer and less emotionally complicated than getting close to your partner.